adopting your own (sort of) child A generation ago, Megane Oz was taken away by the social worker for flunking out of school. Yesterday, her widowed brother-in-law, Joe, adopted her. Imagine my surprise when Megane got out of the social worker's car. Of course, he's now 55 and she's still a 5th-grade nerd with pigtails, but I didn't think this could happen - returning to the same house. Before she died, Joe's wife and Megane's sister, Young, tried to adopt and was turned down because "you've had children taken away." I guess Joe could because it's not a *blood* relationship, like her sister? I hope Megane is a better student this time.
OH so Joe is the little girls brother in law? I've had siblings adopt their older siblings before. They can because the social worker came before they were born so they don't have the memory. But I don't really agree about the children not being able to adopt because of a sibling being taken when they were teens. But then again on rare occasions the teens ARE the responsible adults because the parents have died. Ruth
Hmmm. Interesting. I had a family have their adult son move back home after the younger kids were taken, and he was able to adopt them back, to the same house, though they now were his kids rather than his siblings. I wonder if he could have done that if he was already living at home. Sounds like, from your experience, that he couldn't.
I stopped using the adoption service after the first time I tried it. I deliberately set a trollop on a course of unwise liaisons followed by neglectful parenting to stock the childrens home. The first one to be adopted had no memories ... even though her natural grandma had potty-trained her and they were best friends before she was seized by the SW. Since then I manage my own adoptions by temporarily moving in the adoptive parent and then moving them out again with the child. It's not ideal because the child has no "family" relationships with the adopting family but at least they retain memories of their lives before they were adopted. Yeah, I know. I'm picky
Interesting - This gives me an idea - What if you set up a "Children's Home." You could start with a loving, childless couple (or maybe a mean and nasty childless couple, if you wanted to create a tragic orphan scenario). Then, have one of them temporarily move in with the family who's child needs to be removed, and then have them move back to the Children's home with said child. You could have up to five children, plus the couple running the institution. (You would need a two people running the place so that one could remain there, while the other one was out collecting the stray children.) The reason you would only want 5 children was so you could have the prospective new parent come "Visit" (i.e. Move In) to adopt their new child. If it was a really posh Children's Home, you could even have a little apartment just for the adoptive parents, so that they could get to know the prospective adoptees. Hmmmm - I smell a storyline coming on...
So I have a sim who had his kid taken away, yet he still has wants around said kid, the latest being "kid gets scholarship." I looked in his family tree and that kid isn't there, but apparently he's retained some memory of it.
I don't even pretend to understand how that children's home thing would work. I would love to have a tragic Dickensian misused orphans' home but I can't follow the logic of how it would work... My own twisted familial labyrinth may not last, as Megane is proving to be the same rotten, game-playing, couch-jumping, homework-avoiding brat she was the first time around. She lost a grade for missing the school the day she was adopted, when it's impossible to go to school anyway, and now she's carrying a D so it's just a matter of time...
I think the parent retains memory of the child until the child is adopted. Then both their memories are wiped clean. Anyway, I think that's how it works. I have been using it for babies only, unless a very beloved person dies and their child is taken. Since the 1st few times that a child has been taken, I've had much better luck. I also think it's crazy that the child's memories are wiped and they no recognize their relatives!!
You know if you have the INsim and the Summoner, you can just summon the kid back, and she/he will still have the same memory and family tree, then get the family tree (In Insim) and add them to the household, and there, they are still part of them family, (Or do the same with the different family but the kids will still remeber thier own real parents...)
I'd soon sort her out. Have her go straight to potty after school and then concentrate on having a parent play with her ... 2 games of red hands will get her from 100% red to almost fully green. Then ... teach her to study! She'll be able to finish her homework in future much faster once she's learned. That'll have at C+ the next school day. If she's too tired to study, send her to bed for a couple of hours and get her up again for homework, supper and a quick bit of fun ... but don't leave her to choose her own fun. Jumping on couches is so slow in filling the fun meter and so are all those silly tag and cops and robbers games ... red hands is the way to go (if social needs also need topping up) or quickest fun builder is just to go outside and kick a flaming or a gnome a few times 3 days concentration and she'll be waving an A+ report card thereby being an entirely different sort of pest Edit (PS) If you have a car it is never to late to take the kid to school. I've driven them in at 11am and not lost a grade ... dunno how late you can get away with ... been a long while since I lost a grade so I can't remember, offhand, when the grade-drop cut-off time is. I've even gotten a grade increase by driving them to school late cos they missed the bus. Likewise with sims who miss the carpool or forget to go work by car. Even when they get late for work message they can still get a promotion if their performance meter is all green and skills/friends quotas are met. Morgan typically goes to school in yellow energy mode ... I zap her up with the energiser before she goes off to her eveing job and then she stop up all night skilling. When she goes to college she'll be able to earn $500-600 a day just by busking in the dorm instead of going to class ... with 7 grand in scholarships plus 2400 from getting on the Dean's list twice plus 6 days at 500 a day she should make Sophomore with, at least, 12 thou in the bank. In the sophomore year I move my students into a little trailer homes park and those who desire it move on to Greek houses in the Junior year. Yikes! Time I was in bed ... no reason, except my back will stiffen up if I don't give it some horizontal time Night night y'all
I have a couple who lost their child to the SW and they still have wants concerning her. Of course now she's being raised by the wife's parents. Which would make her their sister and therefore they shouldn't have wants for her to get a scholarship or get into private school. Those wants are getting fewer and further between though. Ruth
Actually that happens with any sims, if one of my sims who werten't related to a teen (Or child maybe, just haven't tried that yet) and were an adult, they would have wants for thioer friend/lover to get into college, so I guess it works the same for sisters..
D'oh! I think this is the right place/thread to put this... Well, I had a lady sim ring up the adoption service, then that day her boyfriend moved in, and the following day her little bundle of joy. Turns out she wasn't that into commitment anyway and left him at the altar. I couldn't be bothered to move him out, and anyway, he was a professional party guest Then the poor little adopted baby aged to a toddler, and I decided to make the ex-boyfriend be friends with the little tacker, and all was going fine until the little pink hearts started flowing from the ex's head!!! Aww man! I didn't think an adult could crush on a toddler!!! Is this because my sister might have downloaded something or what? Well, he's definately moving out now
That's just oogy. I've had people have crushes by association. I had a toddler think love thoughts about an adult his dad had a crush on, but never the other way around. There is a fix for that at MATY, if you're interested. I never bothered, as it doesn't bug me that much.
Yeah, I think I'll just move him to the family bin until my toddler has grown up or something. Downloads don't work very well on my computer, as I can't for the life of me unzip them... But it doesn't matter, I've had tonnes of advice and none of it worked
