Hey there, BabewithBrains Do you need cheering up about something serious? Or is it a bad week in school?
*Sigh*. The first one. My Great-Uncle Billy (I just call him my Uncle) was diagnosed with liver cancer after going to hospital with agonising stomach pains. They said it was treatable. A few weeks later, one doctor said as far as he was concerned, my Uncle no longer had cancer. Hooray!!! Party all round! Then the next day another doctor said Uncle Billy still had the bloody cancer (pardon my French), and the other doctor was wrong to say that he didn't have it anymore. Great. This was about a month after being diagnosed. Then around two weeks later, we were told he had 12 months to live. (Oh God, I'm crying again.) He died yesterday morning. He barely lasted 6 weeks. 6 weeks, Lynet! He was the greatest guy you could ever meet. I'm speaking truthfully here - I never heard him say a bad word about anyone, and I never heard a bad word said about him. He owned a barbers shop, it was passed down to him from his father when he was 13 years old. He worked so hard. I used to visit him in the holidays there, and when I was younger I had a mini dust-pan and brush. I used to sweep up the hair - this is since I could walk, until I moved onto answering the telephone. Then about 6 months ago he retired. I think he knew in himself he was ill before the doctors did. It took them long enough to realise he had cancer - it took them about 3 weeks. It shocked me how fast he was deteriorating. He's quite a large man, and he looked so gaunt on Sunday when I last visited him. When he was well he used to squeeze me really tightly so I couldn't breathe when we said goodbye and rub his beard aginst my face to wind me up. When we said goodbye on Sunday he barely had the strength to lift his arms. By then he was bed-ridden - on Saturday ight he had spent the night on the floor with a duvet wrapped around him. He had gotten out of bed and just crumpled onto the floor, and my Aunty Pauline couldn't lift him up.At least he isn't in pain anymore. So yeah, I did need cheering up Lynet. Thanks for giving me the time to offload all my upset on you. I really did need it! PS It's the funeral next Friday. It'll be my first. Suppose I've been lucky really.
Babe, I'm so sorry. It's so hard to lose someone you love, and your uncle sounds like a great guy. It sounds like he knew how to make the most out of life, and that's what's important. None of us knows how long we have, so it's important to enjoy what we're given and be good to others while we're here. Funerals are hard. Just go ahead and cry, let yourself feel what you're feeling. I think people try too hard to have a stiff upper lip, and I'm not sure that's always a good idea. Wish I could give you a hug in person, but consider this a long-distance hug. Take care of yourself.
That hug feels great, SBW. All warm and fuzzy! I guess you can find comfort in your friends' words, even when they are not stood next to you saying them. And that's what makes a great friendship. Because you're right! None of us know how long we have. Don't try and put a time on it, 'cos you could be wrong. So I'm gonna be happy, just like he wants me to be. Just because he isn't here in bodily form doesn't mean he isn't here at all.
That's exactly right. He lives in your memories, and in your heart. I sometimes feel like those I've lost are right there with me ... kind of like my own personal guardian angels.
You're right. Now if everone else could think that way, the world would be a lot happier. I'm going to visit my Aunty Pauline later, see how she is. Mum said on the hone she seemed quite jolly, not upset. She must be thinking the same way as us, SBW. x x (If anyone else wants cheering up, check out the llama song. It's unbelievably funny. And go back to the flash stuff for the guinea pig song. Almost as good as the llama song.) www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/llama.php
So terribly sorry, Babe. I was hoping it wasn't so sad, what you were upset about. Lost my father earlier this year. Still hard to accept. I'll check out your recommended site when I get home from work.
I've never been to a funeral, but I can imagine the pain. Are you okay? He'll always be in you're heart and I'm sure he doesn't want you to be unhappy. He is always watching you! I'm not really good in these situations. Usually all I can do is cry along with them. You should check www.goodquotes.com That's where I got my signature! Please don't be sad, I hate it when people are sad.
Can't load llamas at home. Takes too long. I'll have to wait until Monday. So sorry about your dad, Lynet. So far (knock wood) my immediate family is still intact. I think that would be the hardest.
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your Uncle, he sounds like an amazing man. I know it's difficult. Lost my grandfather two years ago, and I know it's kinda hard to compare, but healing is still happening. It's so surreal, isn't it? Hardly believeable, even now. I read this before, dunno where, but it certainly applies here. Just remember, it is not time, but love that heals all wounds. My condolences. You'll be in my prayers, and I hope there's at least a little return to normalcy for you. -John
I know how hard it is to lose someone you love--well, maybe I don't, but my pet turtle did die when I was 10, and by then I had a pretty good grasp on what death was, so I had a good cry with my mommy. But I understand how horrible it is. Your uncle sounds like a really great guy. Doesn't it seem that in all the movies and books, it's always the nice old people that have a fun sense of humor and always make you laugh the first to die? Reading this immediately reminded me of HP6. Virtual hugs all around!
Lynet, Babe so sorry about the losses in your lives. accept my cyberhugs as a poor representation of how much I do care.
Oh, my!!! Gals, I'm so sorry!!! Been through both horrible experiences. Babe, I lost my Grandmother when I was about the same age you are now, and it was my 1st Funeral. It was a very scary, sad experience for me, and my heart goes out to you. Lynet, I'm so sorry about your Father. I know exactly how you feel. My Dad's been gone 11 years, and I still think of him and miss him daily. (((hugs))) to both of you!
Oh God, you're all so great! Mind you, I'm not surprised. I knew that anyway. I'm really sorry about your losses. And Kupo, you are so sweet - the 'don't be sad bit' made me cry again lol. I went to see my Uncle today at the Chaple Of Rest. Now, some people are going to say it's not right for me to be in such a place, but it felt right. He looked great, a lot better than on Sunday. He had a black nd white shoes on, heeled but still masculine lol, black trousers, a black shirt with a white collar, an expensive black and white tie from America, and a black and white checked jacket. My Uncle Frank had said all Billy needed was a tommy-gun! He looked like something from The Godfather. When my Mum left and it was just Billy and I in there, I went to leave the room and stood at the curtains. I aid to him; 'You look great, Uncle Billy, like a gangster. Like Al Capone. Or is it Al Pachino. Ooh, you know who I mean. Him in the gangster films. Lets just say you're the Godfather. Yeah, the Godfather. Anyway, I love you!' It's good to know that I could still laugh with him, if you know what I mean! PS: I don't want to know if I meant Al Capone or Al Pachino, if you know what I mean. I'd like to keep that memory without thinking of it in a, well... say, a tarnished way. Once again, I hope you know wha I mean.
Mafia, maybe? LOL Its good to know you can still have fun with him. My grandma is really sick, but she lives in China and we can only visit her on 24th November. I guess you didn't break ino tears? That's all I do when I go to my pet's graves.
Death confuses me, all those emotions running around like crazy and so mixed up that your never sure what it is your feeling and what you should do with those feelings, well that's how i was when my dad died way back in 1994, I was 20 and had just found out I pregnant with my first child. It was a difficult and sudden death to deal with and I'm still confused about it to this day. Babe and Lynet, so sorry to hear about your losses, I don't think it is ever easy to lose some one you love. Babe, you seem to be coping with it admirably, and it's great that you are finding the good things to remember and smile about. My thoughts are with you.
You were my age when you're dad died? That's so sad!! How did you cope? I would be devestated if my dad died now!! I'll pull my heart out right now for all of you!!! All you're losses makes me think. I should enjoy my life right now with everyone I love. Starting with all you members of WorldSims! *Rips out heart to show everyone* Everyone, feel good!!! I'm listening to good old Frank Sinatra. It feels like a pleasant drug! South of the border, down Mexico way!!!! Come fly with me, lets fly lets fly away!
I adore Frank Sinatra but didn't get into him until recently. Billie Holiday and Ray Charles are my favorites though. My sister's fiance plays New Orleans Jazz ... they did a benefit for musicians affected by Katrina, since musicians aren't known for having things like insurance. I've been getting into that music as well, thanks to him. Babe, I agree that you're handling your uncle's death admirably. I've lost several aunts and uncles, including some with whom I was pretty close. My grandpa died when I was 10 and my favorite uncle when I was 12. So I do understand how you feel. I must say you seem to be handling it much better than I did. I was a mess. Big hugs.
